I admire people who are quiet and confident (quiet confidence). A confident person would know how to control his temper and set the tone of any conversation in any room. Confident is simply being sure of something. It can be to be sure of yourself. Being quite confident would mean not loudly or noisy but firmly self-assured. People with quiet confidence have habits that are easily noticeable. If you also want to be quiet confident, you can choose to develop these habits, so read on.
1. Learn and grow every day. Learning is one of the most important endeavors in life. As an individual, it is important to never stop learning, especially when it comes to morals and how to be a better person. In order for you to continue learning, it is important that you read at least for 30 minutes daily. This will help to build your confidence in subject discussion because you will possess the requisite knowledge to engage in such discussion. Listening to a podcast also helps if you are not a good reader or maybe you fall asleep whenever you pick a book (like me most times).
Podcasts can be a great alternative to books. Most books have audio versions online, which can be a very good source of knowledge. You can find very good podcast channels on Spotify and online. These podcasts cover almost every available topic you can think of. It is also a great source for conducting and gathering resource materials. With the mindset of a scholar, you will have an imagination that everyone you meet in life has something to teach you. But you must also be careful to note that not every source of knowledge is the knowledge you want. At every learning opportunity, you take what’s needed and discard the rest.
2. Make your own momentum. It is important that you don’t be a copy-cat or a photocopy of someone. B the original you. As much as learning from others is very important, you must be able to clearly draw a visible line between learning from a person or mirroring the person (photocopying the person). Know this, you are unique the way you are. In order to build your quiet confidence, you must learn how to be yourself. In order to do be yourself, learn to do this little things for yourself. Learn to write down your wins. It might not be pen and paper writing, it can be remembering your wins no matter how little it is.
Complimenting yourself is also very important in order to build your own momentum. Tell yourself that you look good or you did well in a presentation also accept compliment giving to you be others but be careful not to allow it become pride. Learn to enjoy your own company it’s the only person that will stand by you even in your grave. Be your greatest motivation and your greatest inspiration. Go on self-discover trips, hangout and meaningful eat out.
3. Train your body language. In order to build quiet confident, a good posture is required. Stand up straight, if it means hitting the gym or using a workout routine to help you get a better posture. You should learn to make and maintain eye contact with who you are talking to. It’s a confident trait to have a firm shake and be able to maintain eye contact. In training your body language one of the most important thing you have to always do is smile. Smiling is one of the best body language you should possess. Smiling is contagious, it’s a sign of hope and it’s a sing of self-confident but be careful not to smile sheepishly or without reason.
4. Pause before speaking: speaking is an act in communication; it is important that you learn how to speak. Read about how to speak and how to speak better. Learn to pause before speaking, especially before you answer a question. That two seconds gives you a fraction of time to reason a perfect reply to the question; it also helps you diffuse the tension in the space or the tension you might be having. Doing the pause also makes you sound more confident. It’s also important that you learn how to present yourself to an audience or an individual. Learn to seize people’s attention, especially wherever you are needed to. Understand the rhythm and the ambience in every discussion. Have a powerful form to open or start a discussion. Learn the elevator pitch technique in presenting yourself. It helps you highlight the important features of your life to tell people.
Silence is a powerful tool to employ in speaking. If you don’t have something to say, be silent. If you are not sure of what to say, be silent and think. Being silent is a great strategy in portraying quiet confidence. Silence can sometimes be a powerful tool because it has a voice that cannot be challenged. But the other aspect of silence is that silence can be consent, especially when wrong things are being plotted. So know the time to be vocal and know when to be silent.
5. Be interested, not interesting. As you learn to be quite confident, it is noteworthy to note that not everything revolves around you. Be interested in other people’s affairs or lives, not to the extent of gossip. Show concern and empathy to others. In going out in a limb for others, you build a strong network of persons that will be indebted to you in gratitude and also your closest supporters. Start asking questions that have answers. Instead of just asking vague questions, ask clearly articulated questions that effectively convey your intended message. Anything you are not certain about needs clarity. In seeking clarity, ask questions that are important or relevant.
This really helps in building quite confidence and morale. Good questions are also applauded in any setting. Don’t be a fool forever; ask questions. Don’t ask condescending or abusive questions or use abuse in questions. It is a sign of low self-confidence. Making others feel important is applaudable. In making others feel important, you boost your profile in that person’s view. Apart from the social benefit, it is also a trait of being responsible and good upbringing. All I’m saying is be genuinely interested in people.
6. Be vulnerable to your faults. Know that you are not infallible; learn to accept your faults and forgive yourself. It shows maturity and your ability to move on from your past faults. You don’t have to be perfect or awesome. this can really improve your quiet confidence Just be you. Once you accept your weak side as part of you, you bloom into a better person with confidence in self-mastery.
Actively, one can learn quiet confidence. It just requires practice and conscious efforts to be a better version of yourself.
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As always, be the better you.
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