According to Google, relationships can be defined as the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected. Relationships are an integral part of society’s building and development, as it has been observed from the past that one tree does not make a forest. It also applies to humanity; you need others. Relationships can have a positive or negative effect, but for this post, the focus will just be on some pieces of relationship advice.
So, let’s dive in:
Some past should stay in the past.
Never ever tell your past story to your present partner. It will screw up your life at any point in time. People tend to share their past relationship escapades, including their gory sexual past, which is not really advisable. This often ends up biting back at them. It might seem good in trying to improve closure, but trust me, especially in the world we are in today, where everyone out there wants to try out something or the other, it is not advisable to tell your entire past to your present partner.
One unsolicited piece of relationship advice is to not keep your body count as low as possible (don’t be a whore) and stay away from lifestyles that you cannot proudly expose your kids too if you plan on having any. Have boundaries, setting boundaries is true freedom.
Attraction.
Most people, at the start of their intimate relationship, think its love, but it’s usually just attraction. Basically, the first stage of every relationship is some form of attraction, but it doesn’t always continue to be so. A good relationship transcends the understanding and harmonization of wishes and desires. This stage usually comes with a clearer view of who the partner truly is. Most of the time, people become fixated on attractions that obscure their knowledge and understanding of the person they are in a relationship with. Making judgements or making decisions at this stage is what gave rise to the popular maxim “love is blind”. It is very necessary for you, as an individual in a relationship, to grow out of this stage of infatuation and be mature enough to handle your partner, because only then will you realize that no one is perfect.
Parents.
it is important as an individual to honour, love and respect your parents. Parents are the shoulders that assist you in reaching your goals. The majority of the time, the one last backrest you have or the best means of recharging is your parent, especially a supportive parent. Individuals raised by a single parent or lacking parents in today’s society shape their worldviews differently as a result. A biological parent’s care cannot be compared to any other kind, except for a spouse’s care. Therefore, it is advisable that you value the relationship you have with your parents, cherish each moment spent with them. Don’t just celebrate and organise elaborate burial ceremonies for them, celebrate them more when they are alive. Make sure your family (including your parents) is satisfied before feeding the street.
Intimate.
Be careful of how intimate you are with your partner. You shouldn’t be emotionally committed to a partner who isn’t committed to you, as it can literally kill you. It’s a waste of time effort and it causes psychological and mental breakdown easily. Relationships work better if there is a give and take, a one way traffic relationship will almost definitely hurt one party. If you’re not giving or receiving an equal amount of intimacy, you’re unlikely to get the most out of the relationship. Unsolicited advice: date with intention, don’t date just because you’re infatuated or your sexual hormones are driving you to seek a meeting (pun intended).
Remember dirty water can quench fire but it’s not good for quenching thirst.
Keep learning.
Most people fail to realize that learning should never end, it’s a continuous process. Learning is one of the surest ways to invest in oneself. It is the edge and advantage that you can give yourself in a very competitive world. It’s not just learning, it’s important you learn with a purpose and a focus in view. That focus should be centred on self-development for the greater good of society. Go to school, not just the formal learning centres but also the informal such as vocational school, skill acquisition school, computer and technical school. It doesn’t matter how you feel whether you like or not, go to a form of school, study well and hard, don’t be mediocre.
Do you best and try to come out among the best. Study books on self-improvement, finances, spiritual/ philosophical books etc. This also gives you an edge towards setting up better interactive relationships with people around you and the world at large. Remember, keep learning, school might end but learning never ends.
In conclusion, Never settle for less. Don’t get hyper-focused on self-improvement, doing so can lead to being overly self-critical. Just have fun with it, and keep doing tasks that make your life easier, happier, and bring you more in line with your dreams. Moreover, it is more important you have good morals to aid and better your interaction and relationship with people. It’s also important to develop your morals so you don’t settle for less, it makes it easier for you know what you want especially in a relationship. Moral simply means drawing or knowing and understanding the thin line between good and bad and always choosing the good irrespective of what you stand to lose.
Check out the previous post on friendship
As always, Be the best you can be.
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