Quit telling everyone everything
It can be a blessing or a curse to be driven to express yourself. Where the majority of the percentage is occupied by the curse. Informing others about your strategy reduces the likelihood that you will follow through on it since it sets off a cheap, satisfying response in your brain that eases the pressure to pursue your goals and plan. The majority of people don’t give a damn about what you do; what interests them comes from your quest and struggle.
There are others that, deep down, hope you don’t succeed. Being mature requires you to keep your feelings to yourself and to stop caring about telling people what you are doing or intend to do. If disclosure is necessary at all, it needs to be made to those who genuinely matter and wish to assist, as well as to individuals who have comparable goals or aspirations. Don’t provide all the details. Information hoarding and preservation indicate not only maturity but also a rise in self-worth since inexpensive goods are likely to be widely available and easily accessible.
Make an informed friend option
Many people have fallen victim to the wrong kind of friendship at some point in their lives; mature brains choose their friends and decide what and who they want. The adage, “Show me your friend, and I’ll tell you who you are,” has always been true; your friendship is a direct reflection of the plodding pace and direction your life is taking. Examine your current social circle to determine the direction your life is going. (Interested in learning more about friendship?) Surrounding oneself with better people than yourself is the quickest route to improvement.
Have no expectations
Be grateful for everything and remember that no one in the world owes you anything—not your family, your government, an NGO, or a person who promised you anything. Life comes at you quickly, so put in your best effort as soon as possible. While assistance should be accepted with the utmost sincerity, remember that ultimately, everything rests on you and what you are prepared to do. Don’t assign blame to others for your errors; instead, take accountability for your actions and hold yourself accountable by making the proper decisions. The lesson that mature people must learn on their own is that while you owe people nothing, they expect everything from you.
Do your best and have faith in the process
There is no such thing as luck in this world; luck is the result of a consistent and committed process over time to achieve a desired goal. However, most of the time, when we talk about luck, we mean the obvious outcome of a long-term, unseen, committed process; we don’t often see the practice, the sleepless nights, the juggling of two jobs, the late-night training, etc.; mediocre people do the bare minimum to get by, they don’t put in the time to learn, practice, and perfect any skill. This blog space and the writing of this blog post are an attempt to learn, practice, and cultivate my writing abilities.
Giving it your all means going above and beyond what is expected of you. Try your hardest, but keep in mind that there will come a moment when justifications won’t cut it. A rational mind understands that you will be as lucky as you are if you work hard.
Maturity Law five: Remain in control of yourself
I’ve found that the best illustration of self-control is a dog pulling its own leash. That dog’s behavior is independent of people, society, or external factors. Avoid being compelled to take impulsive or reactive actions. If you stop to bark at everything, you won’t be able to see what you’re after, recognize what matters, and respond appropriately in these circumstances. Avoid getting sidetracked by attractions that divert your attention from your task. Avoid polygamy, which is the practice of juggling too many things at once or not focusing on one item at a time.
A sophisticated mind understands what to give, what to put effort into, and what to avoid. The famous Socratic adage, “Man know thyself,” is taken to mean, “Man control yourself,” since the road to self-awareness and mastery is one of self-control. Self-control is the path to personal growth.
Become the best version of yourself.
Check out the previous post on how to live a serene life.
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